Hey guys and gals! It’s Dawn again, with more advice on how to save a marriage just for you.
This one gets a little more personal. It is my story of how I was able to save my marriage through the use of marriage counselling – the ups and downs, what didn’t help, and finally, the secrets using marriage counselling to fix marriage that I discovered (thank goodness!)
Okay, so you’re all familiar with the fact that at one point in the not-so-distant-past, my husband Brian and I were in extreme need of some marriage help in order to have a better marriage and avoid divorce. However, the SPECIFIC reasons of why we needed help to fix our marriage are not so easy for me to discuss.
Well, I knew this time was coming!
(*takes deep breath*)
During our second year of marriage, my husband had what I refer to as an “emotional affair” with a close female friend of his. They never did anything physical, and after a month, he ended it with her and came clean to me. Looking back, I am thankful he was honest with me, but at the time I was completely devastated. I knew it would take me a long time to forgive him.
However, I knew I wanted to save my marriage and I wanted my husband and I to go to marriage counselling together. In my opinion, marriage counselling would likely be the best option if I wanted to learn how to save my marriage to Brian and avoid divorce.
Boy, am I glad we went.
We both learned so much through marriage counselling, too much to even begin to list.
One of the best pieces of advice I can give to any couples who are in need of marriage help and who give marriage counselling a shot, is to LISTEN, both to each other and to the marriage counsellor. While this might not seem like a “secret” to a better marriage, I can’t express how important listening to each other is when it comes to making marriage work. If you are desperate to avoid divorce and are willing to do anything to improve your marriage, don’t interrupt when your spouse is trying to communicate with you. During a marriage counselling session you might get frustrated, defensive, or angry, but take a deep breath and try to relax.
If you are in need of marriage help to avoid divorce, get your spouse to come with you to marriage counselling. Trust me, it can help you with any sort of marriage problem you may have.
