How to save marriage

Hola, amigas/amigos!

It’s me again.

It’s another gorgeous day here in sunny California. I just got back from a long, relaxing dip in the ocean with my husband Brian and our two lab puppies. Perfect days like today really inspire me to come home and help those in need with advice about keeping marriage alive and making marriage work.

As you have learned from my last post, Brian and I have been through some pretty trying marriage problems in our 15 years together (19 if you count the dating years, too!)

While it appears I haven’t had too much of a problem discussing my husband’s past mistakes, I have yet to really admit misgivings of my own. Well, today’s the day, folks.

About four years after we were married, I got laid off from work. Needless to say, I was not happy. One night, we got in an argument and I stormed out of the house in frustration, got in my car, and sped off. All of a sudden, while driving to who-knows-where, the memories from his emotional affair that I mentioned last post flooded my mind. I couldn’t take it. I met a male friend at a bar and after a few too many drinks, I kissed him.

BIG no-no. As someone searching for advice on how to save a marriage and avoid divorce, you definitely should do as I say and not as I do.

The next day after I sobered up and the guilt set in, I told my husband. Needless to say, I had succeeded in devastating him like he had done years earlier to me. After he cooled off, he suggested we once again seek marriage help from attending marriage counselling sessions together. I agreed that this was a great way to find out how we could better our marriage once again.

Once again, three cheers for marriage counselling! It helped me learned to resolve past issues and handle future conflict in a healthy way. This time, we both also worked really hard at some secrets to better marriage that we had picked up along the way of our marriage journey thus far.

In order to maximize marriage counselling benefits, be sure to show your partner respect, consideration, appreciation, kindness, and trust.

If you are truly committed to keeping a marriage alive, you can follow these guidelines for a happy, healthy life together.