Are you looking for some advice on how to stop divorce from happening to your marriage?

Well look no further!

In the past, my husband Brian and I have had some pretty big marriage problems. There were days when I thought things would never get better. I often cried myself to sleep at night.

But things did get better! I was able to save my marriage and now my passion is helping other people save theirs, too. There are many things people will tell you to do when you’re having a marriage problem. But only you know what is right for you. I want to share the things that truly helped my husband and I avoid divorce and have a better marriage. I hope these tips will help you improve your marriage too!

Make a commitment to change

When you face a marriage problem, make a commitment to your spouse that you will change the behaviour or perspective that needs to be changed in order to improve your marriage. Make it clear that you expect the same from them. It can be difficult, but if you both make the commitment, you will have a better marriage.

Learn to forgive

Being able to forgive each other – whether it is something small like forgetting to take out the trash or something big like catching your spouse cheating – is very important. Many marriages cannot survive things like a spouse cheating or lying. However, many couples decide to work through these problems. When attempting to make your marriage work, forgiveness plays a huge role. If you truly love each other and want to improve your marriage, forgive your partner and they will forgive you as well.

Be respectful

Showing respect for one another is a key element in having a better marriage. Take the time to listen to your spouse without interrupting, don’t jump to conclusions, and avoid uncomfortable subjects. Being patient and respectful will improve your marriage in the long run and make your spouse show you respect in return.

We all strive to know how to have a better marriage. No matter how good your marriage is, there is always room for improvement. That is what this e-book is for. It’s a guide to explore how you can improve your marriage and keep it alive. This book explores the different elements of marriage and how you can save your marriage from divorce.

This story is one that means a lot to me, because it involves my best friend, Abbey.

Abbey and I have been best friends since we were in elementary school. We do almost everything together! She is like a sister to me and has always been there through thick and thin.

Two years ago, Abbey came to me with a problem. She told me that she and her husband Mike had been having a lot of problems. She broke down into tears and told me she really needed marriage help! I had no idea that she and Mike were having so many marriage problems, but I was determined to help her. Abbey knew that Brian and I had had some marriage problems in the past and had figured out a way to avoid divorce and save our marriage. This was why she came to me. Here are some of the secrets I shared with Abbey that day that helped fix her marriage – she and Mike are now very happy again!

Keep your individuality

In order to have a better marriage, don’t let your individuality get smothered. While doing things together is important, some people can begin to feel trapped. To make marriage work, encourage each other to make time hobbies, friends, and personal time. This will help keep things fresh so you don’t get sick of each other.

Learn to resolve conflicts

In every marriage, there will be times when you disagree. Compromise is essential in order to have a better marriage. Don’t ever stop communicating with each other, no matter how mad you get. Negotiate your differences so you both get a fair deal. To avoid divorce, smile and support each other rather than nag and yell.

Keep the passion alive

In the years that follow your wedding day, the lust you have for each other may start to fade. Don’t let it! It is so important in keeping your marriage alive that you prioritize and make time for lovemaking. No matter what happens in life – hectic work schedules, the birth of children – it is vital that you remain affectionate in order to have a better marriage.

Keep working at it

The longer you are married, the more comfortable you may start to get. You may think that there is nothing that can shake the bond between you – and all of a sudden, something happens and that bond is broken. In order to prevent this from happening and avoid divorce, have regular conversations with each other to make sure you are both happy about the way things are going. This is such an important part of making marriage work. If one of you is unhappy, fix the problem. It might even be a good idea to seek marriage counselling.

Trust me, if you follow these secrets to have a better marriage, they will work for you just like they worked for Abbey!

It’s me again.

It’s another gorgeous day here in sunny California. I just got back from a long, relaxing dip in the ocean with my husband Brian and our two lab puppies. Perfect days like today really inspire me to come home and help those in need with advice about keeping marriage alive and making marriage work.

As you have learned from my last post, Brian and I have been through some pretty trying marriage problems in our 15 years together (19 if you count the dating years, too!)

While it appears I haven’t had too much of a problem discussing my husband’s past mistakes, I have yet to really admit misgivings of my own. Well, today’s the day, folks.

About four years after we were married, I got laid off from work. Needless to say, I was not happy. One night, we got in an argument and I stormed out of the house in frustration, got in my car, and sped off. All of a sudden, while driving to who-knows-where, the memories from his emotional affair that I mentioned last post flooded my mind. I couldn’t take it. I met a male friend at a bar and after a few too many drinks, I kissed him.

BIG no-no. As someone searching for advice on how to save a marriage and avoid divorce, you definitely should do as I say and not as I do.

The next day after I sobered up and the guilt set in, I told my husband. Needless to say, I had succeeded in devastating him like he had done years earlier to me. After he cooled off, he suggested we once again seek marriage help from attending marriage counselling sessions together. I agreed that this was a great way to find out how we could better our marriage once again.

Once again, three cheers for marriage counselling! It helped me learned to resolve past issues and handle future conflict in a healthy way. This time, we both also worked really hard at some secrets to better marriage that we had picked up along the way of our marriage journey thus far.

In order to maximize marriage counselling benefits, be sure to show your partner respect, consideration, appreciation, kindness, and trust.

If you are truly committed to keeping a marriage alive, you can follow these guidelines for a happy, healthy life together.

This one gets a little more personal. It is my story of how I was able to save my marriage through the use of marriage counselling  –  the ups and downs, what didn’t help, and finally, the secrets using marriage counselling to fix marriage that I discovered (thank goodness!)

Okay, so you’re all familiar with the fact that at one point in the not-so-distant-past, my husband Brian and I were in extreme need of some marriage help in order to have a better marriage and avoid divorce. However, the SPECIFIC reasons of why we needed help to fix our marriage are not so easy for me to discuss.

Well, I knew this time was coming!

(*takes deep breath*)

During our second year of marriage, my husband had what I refer to as an “emotional affair” with a close female friend of his. They never did anything physical, and after a month, he ended it with her and came clean to me. Looking back, I am thankful he was honest with me, but at the time I was completely devastated. I knew it would take me a long time to forgive him.

However, I knew I wanted to save my marriage and I wanted my husband and I to go to marriage counselling together. In my opinion, marriage counselling would likely be the best option if I wanted to learn how to save my marriage to Brian and avoid divorce.

Boy, am I glad we went.

We both learned so much through marriage counselling, too much to even begin to list.

One of the best pieces of advice I can give to any couples who are in need of marriage help and who give marriage counselling a shot, is to LISTEN, both to each other and to the marriage counsellor. While this might not seem like a “secret” to a better marriage, I can’t express how important listening to each other is when it comes to making marriage work. If you are desperate to avoid divorce and are willing to do anything to improve your marriage, don’t interrupt when your spouse is trying to communicate with you. During a marriage counselling session you might get frustrated, defensive, or angry, but take a deep breath and try to relax.

If you are in need of marriage help to avoid divorce, get your spouse to come with you to marriage counselling. Trust me, it can help you with any sort of marriage problem you may have.

Another thing husbands and wives both need to be responsible for in order to save a marriage from divorce is OPEN and HONEST communication! When attempting to improve marriage, thoughts and feelings should be shared with each other. It is the only way either of you will get anywhere!

When it comes to making marriage work, it is important to understand your spouse’s need for personal time and space – and it is also essential that you make some personal time for yourself as well!

It’s Dawn here, ready to help you learn the secrets of how to save your marriage.

Okay, okay…When it came to how to save my marriage, I was not the perfect wife by any means. I have a hard time ADMITTING when I make a mistake (more on this to come), I am not always good with communicating my feelings, and sometimes I can just be a plain old party-pooper.

However, when my husband and I were in dire need of marriage help and I was trying everything I could to avoid divorce, I realized something: instead of constantly focusing on my flaws and worrying about how to stop divorce, maybe I should spend more time on trying to keep my marriage alive. I mean, I love this man, don’t I? Of course I do. He has been by my side through so many obstacles over the years: when I lost my job, when my mother died, when my best friend was diagnosed with cancer. And now that the main obstacle we are facing is a marriage problem, I won’t forget the love I have always had for him in my heart. I was determined from then on to save my marriage.